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 By Courtney Kornblum, M.A., CCC-SLP

Family gatherings provide invaluable opportunities to form relationships, build on existing connections and create meaningful memories. While these get-togethers may bring joy and positivity, they may also pose challenges, particularly for individuals with speech and language differences. Preparing individuals for family gatherings, when communication challenges may be heightened, is where Speech and Language therapy comes in.

Speech and Language therapy is integral in supporting individuals to gain the skills needed to become a proficient communicator. A certified Speech Language Pathologist is equipped to assess and treat the speech and/or language strengths and vulnerabilities of individuals across the lifespan. Individuals who present with a disorder in the realm of Speech may have goals producing accurate speech sounds (Articulation and Phonology), producing fluent speech, or may even present with a voice disorder. Individuals who present with a language delay or disorder may have difficulty understanding spoken language, understanding what they have read, producing spoken language, writing, or socializing. In a larger, family gathering setting, the production of less intelligible speech or difficulty formulating sentences to express oneself, may cause communication challenges to arise.

There are many strategies that a Speech Language Pathologist may consider ahead of time to prepare an individual with speech and language differences for a large, family gathering.

The Environment

It is important to inquire about the environment with the goal of suggesting modifications or supports. If the gathering involves many family members or friends, the room may be loud, with the presence of background noise. This may make it harder to hear spoken language, require people to speak with a louder volume, and cause communication breakdowns. Knowing this ahead of time allows hosts to carefully configure the environment to ensure that a person who has a hearing loss, for example, is seated in a room that is quieter, with their back facing the noise. They may even think about lowering music or selecting a room for a meal with better acoustics. 

Priming and previewing of expected language and problem-solving techniques

During speech and language therapy sessions, the certified Speech Language Pathologist may discuss what a person might say or do prior to entering a family gathering. 

1. 1. What will they talk about? Brainstorming topics of interest and topics of mutual interest is incredibly helpful. An adult relative may ask a young child about their favorite school subject, while their young cousin may use kid “lingo” to talk about a movie they just watched. Learning about different topics and considering topics that they may talk about in advance will boost their confidence when entering a conversation. 
   2. What might go wrong? It is also important to discuss what may go wrong during the gathering and how they may solve that problem. For example, what if it is too loud and they cannot hear anything being said? Thinking of ways to navigate this problem may result in the individual feeling more empowered to ask for the conversation partner to speak louder.
   3. Identify tangible objects they may want to bring to the gathering. Storytelling is a powerful means of sharing about life experiences. Often, we look to recent pictures of events that just occurred. A Speech Language Pathologist may work with the individual to select pictures that they may want to bring with them to the gathering, identify a shirt with a preferred character/logo they’d like to discuss, or even locate a familiar game that they may want to bring along. It is important for these tangible objects to be shared with caregivers in advance, especially for young children, to make sure they make it to the gathering! 
   4. Provide opportunities to role play. Take time to practice what it will be like before entering the gathering. 
   5. What will they do if they feel overwhelmed? Family gatherings may be tiring or difficult, so it is important to empower the individual to take breaks if they need it or even identify a person they may turn to if they need help.

While the gathering is occurring, it is important for everyone to remember the goal of the family gathering: to make positive memories and build connections! Reducing demands and simply adjusting expectations to simply providing the individual with speech and language differences positivity and encouragement is key. Don’t forget to take many pictures of positive moments to highlight later! Reminiscing about the fun game that the individual brought or story they shared about their recent trip with a picture, will positively reinforce their use of these beneficial strategies in the future.

In conclusion, Speech and Language therapy is an incredibly powerful tool to fostering effective communication skills for individuals who may present with speech and language difficulties. With the right techniques and strategies, a Speech Language Pathologist can provide a client with the skillset and confidence for a successful, enjoyable and positive family gathering experience.

Written by Allie Muzzio, MOT, OTR/L

Gratitude is more than just saying “thank you.” It’s a powerful practice that nurtures connection, builds resilience, and invites joy into our lives. Gratitude is essential for fostering mental and emotional well-being.

Five Ways to Embrace Gratitude

Here are five impactful activities to help you embrace gratitude – and why this practice of gratitude is essential for fostering mental and emotional well-being. 

• Create a Gratitude Tree

1. 1. 1. Turn gratitude into a fun and meaningful family tradition by making a Gratitude Tree. Start by cutting out a tree trunk and branches from construction paper and hanging it on the wall or fridge. Then, cut out colorful paper leaves or use post-it notes and have each family member write something they are thankful for on a leaf. Add new leaves throughout the season, creating a vibrant display of gratitude. This collaborative activity doubles as a heartwarming decoration and a daily reminder to celebrate life’s moments.
      2. Why it matters: This activity helps children and adults alike focus on the positive, fostering empathy and connection within the family. Plus, the visual reminder encourages ongoing reflection. 

• Explore Gratitude Through Stories 

1. 1. 1. Reading gratitude-themed books, like Bear Says Thanks, is a wonderful way to introduce the concept of gratitude to younger children. These stories spark meaningful  conversations about appreciating what we have and the people around us. 
      2. Why it matters: Stories help children relate to abstract ideas like gratitude, making it easier for them to understand and connect with the emotion, allowing them to apply it in their daily lives. 

• Play “Rose, Bud, and Thorn” 

1. 1. 1. During dinner or before bedtime, encourage each family member to share their “Rose” (something good about their day), “Bud” (something they’re looking forward to), and “Thorn” (something challenging). This reflective activity helps frame experiences through the lens of gratitude, while also acknowledging difficulties. 
      2. Why it matters: By focusing on both the positive and the growth opportunities, this activity teaches emotional resilience and helps children develop a balanced perspective. 

• Start a Gratitude Journal 

1. 1. 1. Encourage older children or teens to write in a gratitude journal regularly. They can jot down a few ideas they are thankful for each day, or explore prompts like “What made you smile today?” or “Who inspired you this week?”
      2. Why it matters: Journaling boosts mental clarity and provides a private, safe space for processing feelings. This encourages emotional regulation and helps foster a deeper sense of appreciation and gratitude.

• Practice “I am” Affirmation Breaths

1. 1. Teach children and family members to pair affirmations along with deep breathing. For example, take a deep breath in, then as you exhale, say out loud “I am grateful” “I am calm” or “I am enough.” 
   2. Why it matters: This activity promotes mindfulness, helping to create grounding moments during busy or stressful times, both during the holidays and beyond, as well as encouraging emotional awareness and a positive mindset. 

Why Gratitude Matters

Research shows that practicing gratitude isn’t just good for the heart – it’s good for the mind, too! 

Regularly practicing gratitude can: 

• Boost happiness and reduce stress.
• Improve relationships by fostering empathy and kindness. 
• Help us stay present and appreciate life’s simple joys. 
• Encourage resilience in the face of challenges.
• Cultivate a positive family culture rooted in connection and understanding. 

Gratitude is a skill, and like any skill, it grows with practice. By incorporating activities like these into your family’s everyday routine, you’re not just creating joyful moments – you’re laying the foundation for a healthier, more connected life.

For more information on practicing gratitude, we hope you’ll watch our webinar: The Power of Positivity.

In today’s complex world, families face a multitude of challenges that can strain relationships and weaken bonds. From financial pressures and health concerns to everyday conflicts, these challenges can affect even the most resilient family unit. Family therapy offers a structured, supportive environment where family members can come together to resolve conflict, improve communication, and strengthen family ties. Here are five powerful ways family therapy can help fortify your family bonds during difficult times.

1. Creating a Safe Space for Open Communication

One of the greatest benefits of family therapy is that it provides a safe space for family members to express their thoughts and emotions freely. In therapy sessions, everyone is encouraged to share their perspectives without fear of judgment or criticism. A skilled family therapist facilitates these conversations, ensuring that each family member feels heard and respected.

This supportive environment encourages active listening, a crucial skill for healthy relationships. When family members truly listen to one another, they are better equipped to understand each other’s needs, concerns, and feelings. This foundation of open communication can improve family relationships by fostering a sense of empathy and mutual respect.

2. Teaching Conflict Resolution and Problem-Solving Skills

Conflict is a natural part of family life, but unresolved issues can escalate, leading to resentment and weakened family bonds. Family therapy focuses on teaching conflict resolution skills, enabling family members to address disagreements in a constructive way. By learning techniques to navigate challenges together, family members can resolve conflicts without letting emotions boil over or strain relationships further.

Family therapists often use structured exercises and role-playing to help family members practice these skills. As family members learn to express their frustrations calmly and assertively, they become better equipped to handle disagreements, leading to a more harmonious family dynamic.

3. Strengthening Family Dynamics Through Improved Communication Skills

Effective communication is key to a strong family unit, yet it is often the first skill to suffer when family dynamics are strained. Family therapy offers practical strategies to help family members improve communication skills. Techniques such as active listening, paraphrasing, and respectful expression allow family members to better convey their thoughts and feelings.

By enhancing communication, family therapy strengthens the bonds within the family unit. Improved communication not only helps resolve current issues but also sets the foundation for healthier interactions in the future. The benefits of family therapy often extend beyond the therapy room, enhancing daily interactions and promoting lasting positive changes in family relationships.

4. Providing a Supportive Environment for Emotional Healing

Difficult experiences, such as loss, illness, or financial strain, can place immense stress on family relationships. Family therapy offers a supportive environment where family members can process and work through these challenges together. A family therapist helps create a nurturing space where emotions can be acknowledged and validated, promoting healing within the family unit.

When family members support one another during emotionally challenging times, it strengthens family bonds and deepens connections. Family therapy also encourages emotional resilience, enabling the family to face future challenges with a stronger, united front.

5. Reinforcing Healthy Boundaries and Building Trust

Healthy boundaries are essential for balanced, respectful family relationships, yet they can be difficult to establish without guidance. Family therapy helps family members understand and respect each other’s boundaries, fostering trust and reducing misunderstandings. By learning to recognize and honor each family member’s personal space and individuality, family members can interact with greater compassion and respect.

Family therapy also promotes a sense of accountability, encouraging family members to take responsibility for their actions and the impact they have on others. This mutual respect strengthens family bonds, allowing family members to navigate challenges with greater cooperation and unity.

Conclusion

Family therapy is a powerful tool for strengthening family bonds, especially during challenging times. By creating a safe space for communication, teaching conflict resolution skills, improving family dynamics, providing emotional support, and reinforcing healthy boundaries, family therapy can transform relationships and bring family members closer together. With the guidance of a family therapist, families can navigate challenges more effectively and cultivate healthier, more resilient relationships. Ultimately, the benefits of family therapy go beyond problem-solving; they foster a stronger, more connected family unit prepared to face whatever life may bring.

Written by Mandi Morgan, MA, M.Ed., LMFTA

Families are dynamic systems, constantly evolving as they pass through distinct life stages. Whether it’s forming a partnership, welcoming children, or adjusting to an empty nest, each stage presents its own unique challenges and opportunities for growth. For me personally, I’ve been married for 24 years, with two daughters in their 20s, and I also care for an aging parent in her late 70s. With each of these aspects in my life, I’ve experienced both incredible joy and significant turmoil as our family system has evolved through these lifecycle changes. In this post, I’ll explore some of the common stages families go through, how these transitions impact us, and strategies for managing the emotional ups and downs that often come with them.

1. Forming a Partnership or Marriage

The start of a partnership is all about blending values, expectations, and roles. Couples are learning to live together, manage conflicts, and create a shared vision for the future. Reflecting on the early days of my own marriage, I’m reminded of how we had to navigate our different religious backgrounds. There was a lot to communicate—not just about our new family but also about how our union would impact our extended families.  

– Change: Adjusting to each other’s habits, resolving conflicts, and creating a shared future.  

– Emotional Dysregulation: Clashing expectations are common. Open communication and making space for individuality can help couples navigate this phase.

2. Welcoming Children

The arrival of a child marks a major shift in the family dynamic, introducing new caregiving roles and stress. When our eldest daughter was born, we were also grieving the loss of a parent. This forced us to lean on each other more than ever, even during navigating our new roles as parents.  

– Change: Rebalancing relationships and navigating new responsibilities.  

– Emotional Dysregulation: Caring for a newborn is exhausting, both physically and emotionally. Self-care and support from loved ones or professionals can help ease this burden.

3. Parenting School-Age Children

As children begin school, parents are often faced with new decisions about education and child-rearing. In our family, my husband and I found ourselves having unexpected conversations about education—one of us having grown up in public school, and the other in private school. It wasn’t something we’d anticipated needing to navigate.  

– Change: Managing daily family life while guiding children through social, academic, and personal growth.  

– Emotional Dysregulation: Balancing schedules and the needs of multiple family members can be overwhelming. Patience and open communication are key.

4. Parenting Adolescents

Adolescence brings a new set of challenges as children seek independence and often push boundaries. In our marriage, this was a particularly difficult time. I had taken on most of the parenting and household responsibilities, which created tension when my husband wanted to be more involved as our daughters became teens. This led us to seek professional help to ensure we both felt heard and supported.  

– Change: Supporting teenagers as they assert their independence while ensuring their safety and well-being.  

– Emotional Dysregulation: Adolescence can lead to conflicts and rebellion. Mindfulness and mutual respect in conversations help manage the stress during this phase.

5. Launching Young Adults

When children leave home, parents must adjust to life without the day-to-day responsibilities of caregiving. This stage can bring both relief and a sense of loss. For us, this stage of launching our daughters has brought us closer as a couple. We’ve realized that allowing them the space to become independent helps them confidently transition into adulthood.  

– Change: Redefining relationships as children become self-sufficient.  

– Emotional Dysregulation: “Empty nest syndrome” is real, and parents often feel sadness or loss. Reconnecting with your partner and rediscovering personal interests can ease the transition.

6. Later Life and Retirement

As we age, we face new changes in identity, lifestyle, and family dynamics. While my husband and I aren’t quite there yet, we’ve observed our parents and grandparents going through this stage. We’re aware that when the time comes, we might seek professional help again, even as a marriage and family therapist myself. Gaining insight from others in the field has been transformative for us.  

– Change: Coping with the emotional and physical challenges of aging and finding new purpose after retirement.  

– Emotional Dysregulation: Anxiety about aging or a loss of purpose can arise. Staying active, maintaining social connections, and exploring new hobbies can help maintain emotional balance.

By understanding these stages and their impact on family systems, I’ve found that I can personally better manage the emotional highs and lows that have come with life’s transitions. Through self-awareness, open communication, and a willingness to seek support, my family has been able to navigate these changes with more ease and resilience. That’s not to say it’s been without its challenges—far from it—but keeping our partnership at the center of everything has helped us choose a path where each of us feels seen, loved, and understood, even in the most difficult moments.

How to Manage Emotional Dysregulation During Major Family Transitions

First, I believe it’s crucial to acknowledge when we’re emotionally dysregulated. But what does that mean? Emotional dysregulation happens when emotions feel overwhelming and difficult to manage—something that often occurs during significant life transitions. Recognizing this state of mind is the first step in addressing it. Here’s how I manage emotional dysregulation during these pivotal moments:

1. Self-Awareness

For me, the first step is always recognizing when I’m feeling dysregulated. This often looks like worry, fear, sadness, or anger surfacing. I make it a point to identify what might be triggering these emotions, acknowledging the feelings that arise during these transitions. Understanding what’s happening internally is critical in moving from dysregulation to regulation.

2. Mindfulness and Grounding Techniques

Mindfulness exercises, such as deep breathing, meditation, or journaling, help me regulate my emotions and bring me back to a state of calm. These practices are invaluable during particularly stressful times when change feels overwhelming.

3. Communication

Open and honest communication with my family has been a lifeline. During times of change, being vulnerable—truly sharing and being seen at my deepest level—can be difficult. But I’ve learned that expressing my feelings and needs, instead of bottling them up, allows me to feel more connected and understood. When my family feels heard, it reduces misunderstandings and strengthens our bond through these transitions.

4. Self-Compassion

I also remind myself to give space for my emotions. It’s normal to experience emotional waves during transitions, and I’ve learned to navigate those moments with kindness toward myself. Instead of being hard on myself for feeling overwhelmed, I try to recognize that these emotions are part of the process I need to move through.

5. Seeking Support

Perhaps the most important part of managing emotional dysregulation has been seeking professional help. Working with a therapist allows me to understand my triggers, how they show up, and how to heal. Whether individually or as a family, therapy has provided a safe space to explore feelings, work through transitions, and build resilience.

Final Thoughts

Every stage of the family lifecycle inevitably brings change. While these transitions can be challenging, they also offer opportunities for personal and relational growth. By building self-awareness, practicing emotional regulation, and seeking support when needed, both individuals and families can navigate these changes with serenity and resilience.

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